Breaking the “Second Best” Pattern
A Masterclass for Paid Subscribers
Welcome to this masterclass. I’m glad you’re here.
If you’ve chosen to invest in this content, you already know something important about yourself: you’re ready to stop settling.
This masterclass is designed specifically for gay men who’ve spent enough time positioning themselves as second best and are ready to claim the space that’s always been theirs.
What we’re going to explore today goes deeper than surface-level confidence tips. We’re going to get to the root of where this pattern started, how it’s been serving you, and most importantly, how to transform it.
Grab something to write with. This is a working session.
The Pattern Revealed
Growing up as a gay man, I started life questioning everything about myself. Was I different? Was I normal? Did I even belong in this world?
When you don’t have role models or guides showing you the way forward, when you can’t see yourself reflected anywhere, you learn to adapt. That adaptation can sometimes look like positioning yourself as second best.
In relationships, you might become the one who’s grateful just to be chosen. In friendships, you become the supporter, never the supported. At work, you become the one who doesn’t quite speak up for what you want.
But here’s what I need you to understand: the strategy that kept you safe at 15 is the same strategy that’s keeping you stuck at 45, 50, 60.